Breaking the Cycle

Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well. 1 Thessalonians 2:8


Recently my daughter asked why I needed to send a gift card to someone. This person had reached out needing food for their family and my daughter overheard me on the phone lining it up. I gently reminded her our family has never worried about having a safe place to sleep at night or food in our bellies, but those insecurities are a daily reality for a lot of people.

I had hoped to send a gift card, fix the situation until payday, and pat myself on the back for a job well done, but it did not quite turn out like that. I realized this family was stuck in a poverty cycle – no money for the bus meant no way to get to a job interview. No job of course meant bills were not getting paid. Not paying bills meant no phone or computer to look for a job. Add onto that housing, daycare, and food needs and it was a mess.

It would have been easier to just keep putting Band-Aids on the situation but eventually we had to get to the root of the problem and start breaking the cycle. Let’s get a bus pass so you can go to an interview. Yes, I will watch your little one for a bit until daycare kicks in. No, do not call off work to drop off that paperwork, we will find a way to get it there.

I have coached from the sidelines; she is living the reality. I made some phone calls; she has to get up and persevere every day. I get to turn it off at night; she falls asleep thinking about what has to happen next. I know Jesus’ love compels me to care; she wonders what my motive is.

I tell her regularly I am praying. I remind her nothing I’ve done is because I am a good person but because Christ is at work in me. I tell her I am not a saint, but I have an army of people supporting this ministry making it possible to come alongside her. And I share her story with you so you can join the fight for her well being in prayer. I am thankful for this unexpected friend of mine and I hope one day soon to tell you about all the pieces that have come together for her. But more than that, I hope to tell you about a sister in Christ who will spend eternity secure with the Lord.

In Christ,

Aaron and Elizabeth Kilby